ANGER MANAGEMENT AND DIVORCE
Anger is a common emotion felt during divorce. Anger is often the result of feeling out of control of your life, your possessions or your future. Anger can also stem from a sense of betrayal. Anger is a problem if it is controlling you, your actions or your decision s. Don’t let anger take over your ability to make sound decisions or affect how you move forward with the divorce process.
If you feel that anger is taking control of you try using the following tools:
- Look for warning signings (i.e. tight chest, getting flushed, shortness of breath).
- Take a time-out- Tell the other person you need a break and walk away until you feel calmer.
- Slow down your thoughts- Take a minute and breath deeply. Recognize these signs so you can calm yourself before you blow-up.
- Ease up on the reins- Recognize that you don’t need to control everything and always be in control.
- Get some exercise- Physical exercise relieves stress and stimulates brain chemicals that leave you feeling more relaxed and happier.
- Identify Solutions- Don’t focus on what made you angry but on resolving the issues or feelings.
- Use Humor to release tension- Lightening up can diffuse the tension anger brings on. Be careful not to use sarcasm!
- Practice relaxation skills- Breath deeply. Listen to calming music. Write in a journal. Go to an anger management class.
- Take care of yourself- Rest, eat well and exercise will help you handle your emotions in a more effective way.
- Ask for help- Recognize that there are support systems for you.